Living in a blended family is both a challenge and a blessing. When marrying a person who already has children, you have to make an effort to build a relationship with the kids and understand what role you are going to play in their upbringing. Moreover, you need to ensure that everyone feels loved, heard, and appreciated and accept that it takes time to get used to the new family situation. After putting so much effort into connecting with your spouse’s children, it is no wonder that you grow close to them and consider them to be your own. Therefore, the trauma of divorcing your spouse is likely aggravated by the fact that the relationships with your stepchildren are now at risk.Read more
Guest post by Jenny Hart
Any parent – moms, dads, stepfathers, stepmothers, single moms and single dads alike – will tell you that having a child is one of the greatest joys in life. Every parent also has a unique dynamic and relationship with their kids. The relationship between a single dad and his daughter, for instance, can be complex, scary and also deeply special.
Research has shown that kids with fathers who are involved and present in their lives are more likely to excel in school and have fewer behavioral issues. However, there are still challenges that any father/daughter relationship will inevitably encounter.
As you walk through puberty, social activities and her developing emotional maturity together, consider these 4 tips to connect with your daughter and build a strong relationship that will last a lifetime.
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Your divorce just got finalized, and you’re sharing custody with your ex at 50-50. Now you need to get down to the nitty-gritty of how to divide the time that your kids spend with each of you. You need to come up with a schedule that equally divides the time your children spend with each parent. In this post, we review the core principles to keep in mind, and provide specific templates for different 50-50 custody schedules.
With the 80-20 split, one of the parents acts as the primary caretaker (at 80% of the time). With this very unequal division of time, your child has a home base at Parent A’s house, rather than at two different homes. This schedule is likely to work best if 1) one parent travels often for work, 2) the two co-parents live far apart, or 3) your child cannot adjust to a constantly changing environment and needs a primary home base. There are 5 main types of 80 20 custody schedules:
With the 70-30 schedule, your child spends 70% of their time with one parent, and 30% with the other. Both parents are still able and want to be involved in their kids’ lives, but the division of time is less equal than in a 50-50 or 60-40 arrangement. The 70 / 30 custody schedule may be best if parents live far apart and need to minimize transitions from one home to another, one parent has a busier work or travel schedule than the other, or their child needs a consistent home base with a “primary” parent. There are 4 common types of 70 30 custody schedules:
As the name implies, 60-40 custody schedules are close to 50-50, but one parent gets a bit more time with the kids than the other. The days are split 3-4, with one parent having the kids for 3 days and the other for 4. There are just two common patterns for 60 / 40 custody agreements: extended weekends and 3-4 alternation.
Being a parent is challenging, even under the best of circumstances. But being a stepparent is extra-challenging, as you’re stepping into an already complicated family dynamic. You may also be bringing your own children into your new family, with both you and your new spouse becoming a stepparent at the same time.
How does a new step-parent navigate this complex world? What are stepparents’ legal rights and responsibilities? What can stepparents do about discipline? Medical issues? Interactions with their stepchild’s school? How does a stepparent become the best stepparent possible?
Below you will find a summary of the research on being an effective stepmom or stepdad. We tried to answer your questions about relationships with your stepchild, effective discipline, dealing with your stepchild’s school and with medical issues. We also listed some great resources for step-parents on these issues.
Every divorcing couple goes through different degrees of civility and struggle. Higher animosity between parents can lead to difficult co-parenting. Sometimes, it might feel impossible to co-parent and handle certain situations.
Regardless of your ex-spouse, you can choose how you want to parent your children. Here are some common mistakes you should try to avoid when parenting through divorce.
Guest blog post by Andrew Crooke, Director of Family Law at Murdoch Lawyers.
Alternative Dispute Resolution (ADR) includes several methods. One such method available to separating parties is mediation. Mediation has become more popular over the years, as it is quick, affordable and confidential. As the name suggests, mediation is basically a negotiation expedited by a neutral third party. Mediators do not make any decisions, they just facilitate the negotiation. They also determine when and where the mediation process takes place, who is in attendance, and who pays for the mediation.
Usually, mediation is initiated voluntarily by the parties themselves. Sometimes it is required as per the statutes, court orders or contractual terms. It is a common practice in family, housing or small claim courts.
To ensure that the mediation process is successful, here are a few things that you should check with your family lawyer, as advised by the most experienced lawyers in Brisbane: